News for November 2010

Should I just get over it already?

OK, after my kids I became hypothyroid but wasn’t diagnosed for quite some time. I now am 25 lbs overweight and my husband has made some negative comments. He has always complained about my weight- even when I weighed only 136!!! My self-esteem is shot and I have cried way too much over this. It’s at the point where he totally regrets ever saying ANYTHING and really wishes I would get over it. He has said things like " would any man find this attractive?" "look what I have to have sex with".. etc.
We have had endless talks where I am crying and hurt and he states that now he loves me no matter what but I just can’t believe him anymore. His big thing now is that he wants me to stop getting upset of these conversations in our "recent past" that now he will always find me sexy and attractive. I just can’t believe him though. He has hurt my feelings so very bad.
Am I holding on to resentment and just putting him through the ringer or am I justified
‘m just upset b/c looks seem to be so very important to him. We were recently discussing reasons why a couple we knew ivorced and he mentioned "well the husband became overweight and she maintained her weight that’s another reason for the divorce". I really got upset. Weight gain as a reason for divorce? Cried and everything. Feel that he really is just saying the weight no longer matters to end my upset. I really don’t believe him though.
I know I already asked just wanted to add additional details
jk1967, Iwork from home (on the computer) and occasionally take a break by going on Yahoo Answers. I am not being lazy here.
OK< Why is it that if a person mentions they are overweight people feel the *need* to give advice on how to lose it???? That the overweight person has no *clue* how or is lazy. I am working at it. Duh, some of you people …
Am having issues since my TSH levels are supposed to continue to drop and I will need medication adjustments. Till my thryoid actaully is dead so I at times feel bummed out b/c even when I lose the weight it could pile on real fast again. Which just sucks b/c I am really concerned that suddenly I have a huge gain b4 the medications changes… just like the fast rapid gain of 25 lbs in less then a year (actaully months) I had before the diagnosis. BTW, when I was hyperthyroid I was losing fast and furiously. Had trouble getting enough to eat always forever hungry.

Yeah, I thought he was just saying things to appease me. I’m kind of sick of it b/c honestly, I do need to lose but still am pretty in my opinion.
OK, TO ALL THE ENDLESS IDIOTS OUT THERE MY WEIGHT GAIN IS DUE TO A MEDICAL CONDITION NOT ME BEING A LAZY ASS!!! YES< I KNOW HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT AND AM WORKING AT IT. MY GOD…
Jebul are you saying I let loose and have become a total slob?? YOur words not mine… am I interpreting this wrong?
krandazz.. very mean

Edited: November 7th, 2010

Should I just get over it already?

OK, after my kids I became hypothyroid but wasn’t diagnosed for quite some time. I now am 25 lbs overweight and my husband has made some negative comments. He has always complained about my weight- even when I weighed only 136!!! My self-esteem is shot and I have cried way too much over this. It’s at the point where he totally regrets ever saying ANYTHING and really wishes I would get over it. He has said things like " would any man find this attractive?" "look what I have to have sex with".. etc.
We have had endless talks where I am crying and hurt and he states that now he loves me no matter what but I just can’t believe him anymore. His big thing now is that he wants me to stop getting upset of these conversations in our "recent past" that now he will always find me sexy and attractive. I just can’t believe him though. He has hurt my feelings so very bad.
Am I holding on to resentment and just putting him through the ringer or am I justified in
Apples, what do you mean "your husband can only do so much?" I work from home and am taking a ten minute break from my job… I’m not just surfing the net here…
I’m just upset b/c looks seem to be so very important to him. We were recently discussing reasons why a couple we knew ivorced and he mentioned "well the husbnad became overweight and she maintained her weight that’s another reason for the divorce". I really got upset. Weight gain as a reason for divorce? Cried and everything. Feel that he really is just saying the weight no longer matter to end my upset. I really don’t believe him though.

Edited: November 5th, 2010

Best way to get pregnant?

No, I am not stupid and don’t know what sex is.

I have 2 children, ages 14 and 7. I had them in my 20’s. I am now 35. After having my son I developed Grave’s Disease and was eventually treated with radioactive iodine because of the severity of the Grave’s and I am now hypothyroid. On top of this 2 years ago I was diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome and insulin resistance. I was average weight and now am 20 pounds overweight and can’t lose it.

I take my medications. I am remarried to a man a love for than anyone in the world and want to give him his own child, now on top of the health issues, I have my age working against me.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Me and my current husband have been together 3 and 1/2 years and I went off the pill a month ago and now everytime we have sex I start obsessing about being able to get pregnant.

I have an appointment with my OB/GYN tomorrow, what questions should I ask?
I have been told pregnancy is possible, it will just not be easy.

Edited: November 3rd, 2010

going crazy thyroid wls vbac? Waiting to ttc?

Ok this is going to be super long. I am married to a wonderful man and have an amazing son who will be 4 next month. I am overweight I weighted 333 when I got pregnant with my son and 350 when he was born. I was induced 8 days b4 my due date bc they were convinced that he would be big even though I had no medical problems and several ultrasounds said he was actually small. After 7 hours on pit they said I was failure to progress and I had a c-section my son was 6lbs 12oz not big at all even if I had had him late he probably wouldn’t have been over 8lbs. After my son was born my weight shot up my highest weight was 404. This was caused by hypothyroidism but I didn’t know. We wanted our children to be 3-4 years apart so even though I wanted to have another baby we waited. When it was finally time for us to ttc we got pregnant the second month. We were so excited but lost the baby at 9 weeks I was devastated. We started ttc after a month and nothing happened. After a few months I decided to go get some test ran. I hadn’t had my sugars or anything tested since I was pregnant with my son, just to rule anything out. That is when I was diagnosed as hypothyroid. I was told I needed to be on the medication for a year b4 I got pregnant. i worried about my weight and its effect on a pregnancy. I wanted to get the lap band surgery but planned to wait until I had another child so our kids wouldn’t be to far apart. After a lot of talking and reasoning we decided that it would be better for me to go ahead and get the surgery first since it would increase the chances of a pregnancy and reduce the chances of complications. I had the surgery jan 28th and have to wait a year, so I have about 9 months to go b4 we can ttc. It is killing me I hate waiting. I feel like my life is on hold my goal weight b4 pregnancy is 250. I am at 328 now so im on my way but this year is taking forever. So now for the question part. Will I be allowed to have a vbac? Will I have to see a high risk dr for my thyroid condition or my wls? If not will I be able to see a midwife. How likely is it that I would have a successful vbac? Is there any way in the world that I would be able to have a hvbac? Please tell me your vbac stories.

Edited: November 1st, 2010